Emotional Pimpin'

This was inspired by a discussion on Miz's Spot!

SOME times, women think differently than men expect for us to think (surprised, i know:-). And SOME times, we even FEEL differently than men anticipate. Yea, I know this information BLOWS you all away. But here is where it gets GOOD:

NEVER, EVER should a man make the mistake of ASSuming that just because we ADORE his company and talk to him all hours into the night, or because we laugh at ALL of his jokes, or - heaven HELP us: praise him for how he PUT it DOWN "last night" - that we have fallen head ovah heels to the point of NO return IN LOVE. As a Woman with some experience under my belt I have learned that I can CHOOSE to Fall in LOVE. I can allow myself to enjoy the flow - but when I catch on that "the flow" is being tampered with - I've GOT to GO! Despite what may seem like a contradiction - I continue to believe in Soul Mates, but I also think there are charlatans posing as my Soul Mate. So, while I'm keeping my heart "open" to my Soul Mate, I'm keeping my eyes, ears and good sense "open" to f%$kery and emotional pimpin'.

Here's a condensed version of some Pimp-Juice that a Man-Child of God tried to serve me several months back (I have a li'l distance, so I can write about it nicely now;-):
We met at a business seminar - so, we had a common goal, which was to improve our business savvy. A couple of months after meeting at the seminar we saw each other at a networking event and struck up a conversation. The vibe was GrrrreAT! Well, we kicked the willy-bobo, exchanged numbers and in my head there was a "connection". We'd talk for HOURS on the phone and he said he wanted my voice to be the first and last he heard in the day. So, I'm "zooming" cuz Brother Man is feeding me all that my soul needs to hear.

BUT, I'm experienced enough to know that all that glitters is not gold, no matter how much I allow myself to relish in its shine. So, I wait until we actually spend more time together before I ask the "hard" questions. Experience has taught me to ask the real hard questions in person - so, I can look you straight in the eye. When I asked about his living situation, he revealed that he was living with his baby's mama. I asked, "So, what is my purpose in your life?" He stammered a bit and attempted a futile Jedi Mind Trick, "What, with you it's all or nothing?"
As my elders have said, "I didn't get this old without learning a thing or two along the way."
I looked him square in the eye and asked, "How would YOU have it? What exactly are we having anyway, the all or the nothing?"
"I thought we were developing a friendship."
"Okay, but we are not teens. We know our intentions when we start ANY relationship. So, what are your intentions? What is the purpose of you holding my hand as we stroll, what is the purpose of you calling me first thing each morning and last thing each evening, if you are living with a woman and have no intention of developing any intimacy with me?"
"So, I guess that needs to end, huh?"
In my head, I'm like - Ya THINK, Clown? But my closer walk with God kicked in: "That would be best. I don't hold hands or talk first thing in the morning with buddies or males who I'm "just friends" with."

Yea, my "li'l feelings" were bruised because I had hoped that our "connection" was mutual and on a deeper level than apparently it was for him. Then I became quite angered by the fact that he'd wasted my Blessedly Limited Time and he KNEW from jump-street that he had no intentions of developing anything of true substance. He was riding along, pimping the "groove" that I was feeling, betting that there would be some type of "reward" for him - even if only a reprieve from his usual routine. So, his short-sightedness cost him a friendship AND possible business advocate.

Brothers, PuhLeeze end the emotional pimping, or at least - be aware of who you use it on. We are not ALL so easily pimped. But, if you don't stop, that's cool too - because I'm a firm believer that God does NOT like ugly and what goes around comes back around.
Ain't cha heard? Pimpin' Ain't Easy! Take Heed:
*Warning: song contains some language that may be offensive

Yes, all of this could apply to Female Emotional Pimps, too. But I don't get intimately involved with females, so those who have been pimped by women, feel free to share your comments.
*click on photo for its source