Jingle Jangle This HollerDay!

Thankful Thursday ... on Sunday: The HollerDay Edition;-) [11 of 50]

Wow! I guess my new gig, writing, reading & socializing (on AND offline;-) has kept me busy! The last time I wrote my Thankful Thursday post was wayyyy back in July. Who knew It would take me this long to sit down to write the next:

Twenty of the 1000 Things I'm Thankful I've Experienced in My Lifetime:

201) Thankful that I can be so relaxed during this economy. I am employed in a stable "field" & come from a long line of folk who know that we are always going to be ok!

202) Glad that my family doesn't make such a big deal of this merchant driven season, so I can relax and enjoy the holiday lights & my days off of work.

203) Thankful for facebook where I've reconnected with many long, "lost" friends & have even made new acquaintances!

204) Thankful for blogging: the outlet & feedback has been priceless. The relationships that have emerged from this has been incredible!

205) Thanks to my very own YouTube channel I can even promote videos of my readings & weight-loss "reality" show;-).

206) I am blessed with great friends here in NYC who've helped me make it through the trials & tribulations of this past year (& my two prior years of "partial" employment).

207) Thankful that my Blog-Sistah Sharon came to visit me here in NYC, had a blast, blogged about it & created this wonderful Smile Box Treat!

208) So blessed with the ability to welcome in new love despite past disappointments & hurt feelings!

209) Thankful that I have experienced "easy" romantic disappointments -or- have the genetic fortitude to overcome such let-downs with little damage to myself.

210) New Beginnings (new minutes, hours, days, months & years;-) are true blessings!

211) Thankful that the stories I entertain myself with are also entertaining to others! Publishing this year has taught me that (& looking forward to publishing more in 2009:-).

212) Thankful for snow! It's the Winter's best "decorative" feature:-).

213) I love Winter Holiday lights: they cheer me up during the initial phase of these shortened days. Makes it easier to get through January & February;-).

214) Thankful that this past November's election was such a landslide victory for Brother Barack Obama & his beautiful family! Thanks to the upcoming historic inaugural celebration, January 2009 will be a major party month -- especially for me & all January babies;-).

215) Thankful for the blessing of employment so that I can help my loved ones financially - especially my parents. I just realized: I'm someone's bail-out! ;-)

216) Thankful that I can be a blessing to others!

217) It seems that this year I have learned to accept blessings from others - not as easy as it sounds. So thankful that I've learned to do so in this lifetime.

218) My partners & I almost completely sold out the first printing of our first compilation project! We're gearing up for our next collaboration in 2009! See my sidebar for the Holiday Sale. Once we sell out completely, that's it: there will be no reprint! Get the collector's edition of Bloggers' Delight, Vol. 1 while U can;-).

219) Thankful for all of the folk who supported Bloggers' Delight, Vol. 1: the book AND the release parties! We have learned a great deal & are looking forward to improvements for Vol 2 in 2009!

220) Several folks have sent submissions already for Bloggers' Delight, Vol. 2 and that is such a blessing! The due date isn't until 5pm EST Sunday January 18, 2009. This level of enthusiasm is Priceless & I'm truly thankful to be part of something so exciting!

May You ALL Enjoy MANY Blessings this Holiday & Every Day!!

The First Thankful Thursday [1-20].
Second Thankful Thursday [21-40].
Third Thankful Thursday [41-60].
Fourth Thankful Thursday [61-80].
Fifth Thankful Thursday [81-100].
Sixth Thankful Thursday [101-120]
Seventh Thankful Thursday [121- 140].
Eighth Thankful Thursday [141-160].
Ninth Thankful Thursday [161-180].
Tenth Thankful Thursday [181-200].

Giving Thanx 2 the Brothers who DO make Us Smile!

Thanx 2 a new blog in the blog-o-sphere: ILUVBLACKWOMEN I learned of this video that I have to share here. Warning: some of the images are not "pretty"... but the message is beautiful! I think this applies to every Woman & Man of the African Diaspora!

Once Again I've Been Blessed!

No matter how many miracles I experience & witness I don't think I'll evah cease being in AWE of the greatness of The Creator! "Ask and it shall be given unto U." "U take one step & The Lawd will take two." Those are just a couple of quotes that have been drilled into my head by my elders, so I know it's true. However, I must share my latest amazement.
I've been reconnecting with folk on Facebook - primarily friends who I've lost touch with over the years & life's travels. One brother I knew back in high school who I've reconnected with: Chuck Byrd. He's an actor who has taken on the job of being my virtual fitness trainer! On Saturday the 6th, we hooked up because he was in NYC for a few hours to rehearse for a play he'll be in next Sunday the 14th. During his short time here he took me with him to meet Royale Watkins. They are part of a Facebook community who are all about positivity & self improvement. I ran my reality show idea by them and thanx to Chuck, Royale & his buddy, Lou I have begun my own fitness reality show which you can follow by subscribing to my YouTube Channel!

Also, if you're in NYC next Sunday and you're looking for great FREE entertainment - join me at Chuck's play/reading!
About the Play:

This family is set in contemporary Queens, NY at the home of Korina Davis. Her three adult children are visiting to celebrate their eldest brother release from prison. During the visit the family is challenged with a life and death situation which only the power of the mother’s love can resolve. Through good times and bad nothing is more powerful than a mother’s love. Most times you can feel it, chances are you can touch it, hopefully you can see it, you definitely can hear it but sometimes it is so strong you can smell it. SMELL THE POWER!

For further information call 212 353-1176 or visit newfederaltheatre.org

HOPE TO SEE YOU THERE!

When Self-Pity Comes Knockin'...

Sometimes during the HollerDay Season that loathsome Self-Pity likes to come knocking thangs like my confidence around. Self-pity is the best scam artist in the world. It takes advantage of the shortened days and lonnngg cold nights. It denies truths about you and plays on your doubts and fears. For example: I know that it takes great strength and resilience to move to a new city to build a completely new life and support system. But self-pity denies that and tells me that millions of others have moved from another country entirely, started successful businesses and even have the energy and discipline to work-out regularly!

Then I look at some of the famous sistahs who are admired by many and remind myself that even with their support teams and make up artists they struggle just like I do: their weight goes up and down, they have trouble with their romantic relationships and they have to continue to fight to stay on top of their careers - sometimes the media has the nerve to say they're washed up. Shoooot! At least I don't have paparazzi and the media blasting my fears, doubts and failures for all to see. You only get to know what I choose to post on my blogs;-). I only have Self-Pity to duck & dodge! So, when Self-Pity comes huffin' & puffin' at my door I look at these sistahs and remind myself to GET UP & continue to DO MY THANG! I'm doing JUST FINE & I'm in GOOD Company!



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Being A Blog-Star ... Thanx 2 Sistah Miz

Thanx 2 Sistah Miz I've been presented with the Blogging Star Award! Wowww. Is it possible that I'm speechless? LOL!
Well, I have to Thank The Creator who moved me to start blogging in the first place & sends such A'musing thoughts through my beautiful brain.

What 5 Bloggers Do I pass this award onto?
So hard to choose - I'd choose everyone on my blog-list, really. Even if I don't have the time to check them all now that I'm working full-time - U should try! Well, here goes:

The Jody - gotta luv my blog-admirer & AMAZING artist!
Who knew he saw me at that 70's party with my 'do 'froed out & was inspired to create these beautifully hip sistahs? ;-)
Kai C. - that li'l sistah there LOVES her some Michael Jackson & her poetry comes straight from the heart!

NewCed - Yea, it's personal - this Brother has been my voice of reason for YEARS!

Dejanae - Li'l Blog-Sis is cookin' up new flavas! Don't sleep!

BrooklynGirlPublishing - Ms. Lee iz da Hustle QUEEN, not to mention fly-azz she wanna be!

My Favorite Scene from A Piece of The Action:

If you've NEVER seen this movie YOU NEED TO ORDER IT NOW! And if you KNOW this movie - then you know what I'm saying! This should be in everyone's personal collection. This scene HERE is MOTIVATION fo'yah!

... A 'Musing Myself...

I took a quick trip 'round blog-land (left no comments: just lookin' thanx;-). Came back to my blog-home inspired to list a few Random Musings (ok, most inspired by 12Kyle, but there are others;-):

• Last weekend while hanging out we met Haywood Nelson (who's famous for his character Dwayne on What's Happening:-). He was really cool. Despite the drinks, I proudly refrained from saying: Hey Hey Hey Hey!

• Now that we have a Black President-elect with two young children: will more Black folk educate their kids in private schools? Will attitudes about education change much for Black folk?

• It's funny to me to hear different regions' & different cultures' opinions on the roles for men & women. Why do some men still think women need to cook & do all sorts of sexual favors to "hold onto" their man now-a-days? How many of those men who think that way are continuing in their roles as: the pursuer, fix-it man & protector of his domain?

• Someone asked what my specialty was and I responded: "I make a mean phone call!" LMAO!! Whew, I crax me UPP!
  

• Considering all the statistics about Blacks having the highest rate of preventable diseases that have been proven to be caused by foods we eat: Why are Black folk STILL EATING PORK, fried foods & putting sugar in & on everything from greens to rice to black-eyed peas? JESUS Help us learn from the error of our ways!!

• Would you rather be wanted or needed by your significant other?

• If your family decided to skip a Holiday due to the economy - which would U prefer to skip? Or how would U celebrate it differently to reduce expenses?

• I'm excited to connect with so many of my long "lost" friends & former students (now fellow alumni;-) via facebook. I'm proud of and happy for one of my former students/fellow alum: Demetrius Gross who is acting & appearing on Heroes. I've never watched it before, but I watched his episode. Check him out!

Happy ThanxGiving 2 ya!

Blessed Reflections...again

*This was originally posted on Oct 31st, 2006 - Wooow, how time flies! As my solo-flight seems to be drawing to a close I found this post perfect for the season of Thanksgiving & felt the need to share it again, including the two original comments. Besides, many of U may have missed it back when I was blog-green;-). And don't U just love this photo of me? It's one of my faves! LOL! Enjoy!

Reflections are such a blessing. I wish everyone of you, readers the blessings of truly loving and passionate experiences, which you can recall with vivid fondness.

If The Creator never sends another passion filled man into my heart I will die a grateful woman. Many of you will read this and wonder why such a young, vibrant woman as I am would even consider dying without another loving experience. I just want The Creator to know how thankful I am for the experiences I have had since my birth. First, I was blessed to be born to parents who loved me despite their own struggles to love themselves. My father is my best friend and I am eternally grateful for that blessing. My mother is a tough woman who has suffered much loss, resulting in struggles with herself. Nevertheless, I have always known that I was loved. Sometimes, being loved means being envied and hated for the love that others grant easily. Sometimes, being loved means feeling as if the love is undeserved, because I didn't understand what made me so special.

For years, sadly, I foolishly batted away the love that was thrust upon me, simply because I felt I was an unworthy recipient. Well, maybe not totally unworthy, but I felt there were others who deserved love, too (maybe even needed it more than I did, so I thought). I witnessed many others around me who reeally needed love, but didn't get it as easily as I. I send up apologies to those who tried to love me and were rudely, unjustly mistreated because of my ignorance. I did not realize that pushing love away from me would not send it to the people who were love-lacking. I did not realize that I deserved to be loved - just because...I AM one of The Creator's artworks that took time to develop. I deserve to be loved - just because. Regardless of the circumstances, my parents came together in love and I was a result of that rebellious risk and bond. I deserve to be loved - just because ... I AM loving and lovable.

I have experienced a quiet, romantic-love-slow year in which I have been able to reflect, rehash, and even flail about in frustration:-). In this year, I have especially missed the romance, love and tenderness that Black men would bestow upon me. In this year, I have reminisced on the true gifts and love blessings that I have received over the course of my years, many which I did not treat with the deserved reverence. In this romantic-love-slow year, I have fondly recalled the nuances and flirtations that I have been blessed with. Though, I may have been foolish on many levels, I am grateful that I enjoyed many of the courtship & sensational subtleties and flirtations before the onslaught of blatantly overt sexual promotion found in today's media. As I watch the "court-ship" of young people today, I often wonder if there is any chance that they may enjoy some of the delights and innocence as I did. I guess, truth be told, even before the sex-glut of the media, there was often some "fresh" boy who attempted to touch me inappropriately and made me feel as if this female body I was "trapped in" was an object that brought on unwanted attention. But, for the most part I was blessed with respectful overtures.

I can only hope that today's young women do still enjoy the attentions of honorable young men who truly appreciate them and all the glories of their femininity: mind, spirit and body. The memories of simply holding hands with my first love conjure stirrings within me to this day. When we held hands, we did so secretly - we thought. There was such intensity in those feather-light touches that the connection to his one hand set off sparks over my entire being. A mere look from him across a crowd would set my heart racing and render me speechless. The thought that such a handsome, smart, athletic boy found me worthy of so much of his attention was mind boggling and breath-taking.

I have to laugh as I reflect on my past, in frustration. My love life has been made up of the "stuff" of romance novels, and I took too much of it for granted. I have experienced some melodrama, but overall I have simply been the recipient of affection from many whom I had no idea how to reciprocate. I don't agree with women who bemoan the lack of good men, I am quiet during those conversations as I scream inside my head, "This is so unfair to the many who love us, yet we don't accept or understand them!" I have encountered my share of good, decent Brothers and turned them away because I was unable to appreciate them. Now, I'm praying that The Creator does sometimes send out second helpings:-). Old folks say that "The Lawd takes care of fools and babies." I'm praying that the old folk are right, again:-).

I must thank you, Creator. As frustrated as I have often found myself in this romantic-love-slow year, I have learned to recognize and appreciate the love that I get from family and friends. I have learned to recognize what I truly need in a romantic relationship. I have learned how to provide some of my emotional support, so that I won't overwhelm, nor suffocate the next Brother who enters into a romantic relationship with me. Yes, reflection is a wonderful blessing.

May we all enjoy this season of Thanxgiving - cuz, really Thanx Giving is Every Day! :-)

Hustle-in...cuz I need to hear it

Here's some extra motivation for those of us who need this BOOST! Every so often I need to hear this & u may also;-)

...Imagine...

Brother 12K asked me in his comment section:
"@ CapCity - If we all step our game up...just imagine where we'll be as a people."

I began to hear in my head - the various songs that have suggested we Imagine this world a better place: from Nas to The Beatles. Yes, the fact that AMERICANS came out in FULL force & voted en masse speaks volumes about the world we are all IMAGINING. Yes, we ALL have MUCH work to DO. As Brother T-Dawg commented at 12K's spot - we had no excuse before this election. But, I tell you what - this past election is motivation to do better & push a little harder, since it was an indication of how tired folk are of the same old rhetoric. So many people were out early, lined up, video taping & photographing at the polls that I don't think the trickery of 2000/2004 would have been possible.

So, now to answer Brother 12K's question - if we all step up our game where do I imagine we'll be as a people?

I imagine:
My own Life - Richer & Fuller:

• Physically - because I will step up my health & work out game.
• Financially - because I will step up my writing & business game.
• Emotionally - because I have stepped up my trust game.
• Mentally - because I will step up my studies game (languages, piano, etc.).

The World around me - Saner & more Accepting of Differences:

• The Middle East will settle its differences and those battles that have dated back to Biblical times will finally come to an end. Everything ends at some point, right?
• Africa will finally begin to heal from centuries of being robbed, pillaged & raped!
• Individuals of African Descent world-wide will begin to heal from centuries of being robbed, pillaged & raped!
• Tim Wise will become just another person who gets it, then takes action publicly AND privately.
  
• Xenophobia will die in usage and as a concept along with other obsolete terms such as oh, I don't know: wench, apothecary, and scuttlebutt.
• Education really will be the focus of EVERY school - then again, it may be cooler to go back to the days of home-schooling, because parents really need to spend more time with their OWN children! Besides, children learn best from their parents anyway! ;-) AND YES, when I'm blessed to be a parent I want to home school my children! There are better ways to educate and socialize our children than in a classroom filled with their own clue-less peers and one struggling (even if skillful as I am;-) adult. That one teacher to multiple same aged children is an awful model that needs to be revamped!! Bring back days of multi-generation interaction and learning!

What do U imagine the world will be like if we all step up our game?
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...Being Ageless...

Age fascinates me. My family tends to age gracefully, unless of course individuals choose some hard hitting habits that wear the body down. I am thankful for my strong genes, because whenever I reveal my age I get the same reaction of shock (in spite of my tell-tale gray hair;-)! LOL! So, now I rarely reveal my age and finally understand my eldest sister's "philosophy": "I don't lie about my age cuz I'm ashamed, I just don't want to hurt your feelings." ;-). I was inspired by the centenarians that the media showed voting for Brother Obama, especially the able-bodied, clear thinking 106 year old sistah who was mentioned in his acceptance speech.

Recently, I was talking to a friend about the theories that our bodies are designed to live for a very long time as many did during Biblical times. There are scientists who continue to be dedicated to such research -- as I found at The Economist site. Which led me to wonder: what if we could live forever? What would I spend my life doing if I knew that I would be here at least until I was in my mid-hundreds? I've read several "bucket lists", but what about a how to spend the next couple of hundred years list? What can I imagine life will be like 100 or more years from today? We've heard those elders who recently voted say that they never imagined they'd live to see the day when there was a Brother on the ballot. What do you think will be your: I never thought I'd live to see...? What will you do with all that time on your hands if you knew you'd live well into your hundreds?

One of my age-dreams is to be included in Essence magazine's annual issue of Sistahs who defy their age! So, if any of you readers have the "hook up"... ;-)

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President Barack Obama: How Sweet The Sound!

After hearing of folks "horror" stories of how quietly they had to celebrate in their work places that BARACK OBAMA won the ELECTION in a LANDSLIDE ('specially since no trickery was used;-) - I am EXTRA thankful for my new place of employment! EVERYone (for the most part) was ecstatic by the results! I got more hugz last Wednesday from a variety of colleagues - most of whom I barely know, yet! Then I found this Chocolate News piece & David Allen Grier crax me UP, so I had to share!!

**Warning: Do NOT watch this at work (without earphones) or in front of children. Now, enjoy!

I've heard the Obamas are considering my Alma Mater...

... for their girls' education. I know they have many options to consider, but I am extremely excited that there's even a possibility that I may be a fellow alum to the children of the 44th First Family. Many have read that I feel blessed by the sacrifices my parents made, in order for me to attend one of DC's top independent schools.

Now, I am always brainstorming ways to "give back" by educating others about school choices for their children. Too often I've heard Middle Class Parents of Color state that private education is too expensive and not worth the expense. I'd like to help change that mindset. Please check out my poll (& website) in the left column to let me know what U think. Thank you!

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Where will the Bloggers' Inauguration Gathering BE?

I'm definitely going to be in the Nation's Capital during the MLK Holiday/Barack Obama Inauguration weekend! It would be FABULOUS if we could get many bloggers together! I know there will be a "gazillion" inauguration parties - official or not! Who else will be in the Nation's Capital ready to Dance in the Streets & do the Election Slide with the rest of us;-)?

Some one asked if I were having a party for my birthday (two days after the inauguration for those who didn't read the post before this one;-). My response: the NATION will be partying for my b'earthday! I just need to show UP! ;-)

YES! WE DID!!!!!

I am SMILING ALL INSIDE THIS DAY!! Heck, I'm smiling OUTSIDE, too!

I'll proudly reveal something I RARELY tell anyone: Two days after Barack is inaugurated as the 44th President I will celebrate my 44th B'earthday. WHAT an amazing gift to be part of a Brother's Inauguration - 'cause it is NO SECRET that I will be IN THE NATION's CAPITAL on January 20th!!

Young Brothers, you can hoist up your pants now - you may REALLY BE the next President!

Helping a Family Move in...

I'll lend a hand to help you & your family move in Mr. President!
My condolences on the loss of your grandmother!
I know she's smiling down on you
& the rest of this YOU-nited States;-).

Enjoy This Momentous Election Day, Good People!!

P.S. All DC Natives are excited that we're gonna have a 'Bama living at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. ;-)

Please Send Up Prayers for Sistah Miz

My Dear Friend & Blogging Buddy, Miz has lost one of her siblings today. Please pray for her and her family at this time. I did not meet that particular brother of hers, but the family members I have met embraced me as if I were one of their own. They put the hospitality in the phrase Southern Hospitality! May his light shine eternally in your heart.


Hugz & Much love to you at this time of loss, Sistah Miz!

I'm going to try this NANOWrimo thing...

I guess November is the "jump-start" month: Clocks get turned back the first weekend of November (or is that Fall forward - I always get that confused;-), the New York Marathon is the first Sunday of November, Obama will get elected U.S. President in November;-), most of us will enjoy two or three days off from work to sit around & eat in November... it's just a busy month!

Now, I'm going to add this NANOWrimo thing to my list of things to do in November. Have U ever heard of Nanowrimo? I can't recall who turned me onto it - but in the month of November there's this organization that encourages every writer to churn out 50K words = a novel in a month! The website is: Nanowrimo.org. It's a national organization that has regional chapters. The NYC chapter is having their kick off tomorrow! I'm going to stop through, meet some fellow NYC writers & see what this thing is all about. I'm determined to get my novel (novella?) out of me before my birthday, so this should help make it interesting!

So, what's new with U?

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Am I too Sexy 4 ya?

Lately (when I'm not working, reading, commuting, writing, working, flirting, commuting, dating, working, etc.), I've been looking 'round blog-land again. You know, making it around to the regulars who visit me - cuz I don't have time to branch out & get addicted to new folk. What I've noticed is: I get plenty of "hits" according to that meter thang, but I get very few comments or followers in comparison to others I peek in on.

Now, most of U regulars know I'm kind of like a nutty professor who does her own thang with little regard to what will draw the crowd. But, my curiosity is peaked & I'd love to hear what you think the reason for my low comment-age.

Am I too sexy, too "light-skinneded", too serious, too all over the place in my topic choices, too infrequent in my posting, .... ???

Trust me - I don't offend easily. I'm not asking because I'm insecure - I doubt I'll change because of any answers;-) ... I'm just honestly curious.

I guess I'm also asking because in the real world I often hear: "You're cool for a light-skinned sistah." Sadly, I DO know that many of my sistahs of the lighter hue don't carry themselves in a personable manner - so, I don't even get offended by the observation. But, I am wondering if skin tone affects my blog-world, too. I guess this is also on my mind since the country's "hyped" about the affects of Race on the Election. What about Intra-Racism - have we grown past that yet? Are we making ANY progress? What say U?

Thanx in advance for taking the time to comment honestly.

Are U Serious!? Get OVER the Race thang PEOPLE!!

After hearing about that assassination attempt on Brother Obama's life I could use a li'l humor. Sadly, I'm not surprised. Most Black folk who I know are not surprised because there's an undercurrent in white America that's resistant to change, but we'll keep praying for them. I wanted to do a re-post, but YouTube took down my favorites, so this'll have to do.

Warnings:
1) Not to be viewed around kids nor at work.
2) The visuals are crazy wobbly, but the sound is great. I guess, the "videographer" was laughin' too hard;-)

...How very Saxy HE iz....

He stepped into the darkened, crowded space and lit it up with his energy.
He uncased his sax, smiled then blew his soul all over us at the restaurant's bar.
He re-cased his sax, smiled then blew his heart and sweet ear-gasms all over me ... and only me.

Night & Day he makes love to me by warming up with his sax.
I watch with eager anticipation as he undresses her, slides his nimble fingers over her buttons causing her to sing his blues, jazz and funk.

After gently tucking her away I slip into her place -- in his embrace.
We relish in sweet mind-sex (and I don't mind sex;-).
We undress each other then his strong fingers press my buttons -- causing me to sang his blues, jazz, funk and my joy!

His musical notes spill all over my paiges.
We shout praises to the heavens 'cause our prayers have been answered.
We are so ready for this arranged marriage of our love & creativity
... that has been arranged by The Creator...

C.A.Paige © 2008



To my trained poets: These are simply poetic thoughts of mine which I needed to express. I have no idea what poetic form it fits...

My drink of choice these days... is supposed to be good 4 the heart;-)

Submissions Now Being Accepted for BDelight, vol 2.

If you thought the first volume was on fiyah - wait until you see what's in store for the second! ALL Authors & Poets: Click HERE to read the submission guidelines, so you can "step up to the mic" and be part of history!!





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...Mr. Levi Stubbs.... U'll always be in my heart

This man: Levi Stubbs, along with Calvin Lockhart & Bernie Casey are my biggest "crushes" as far as "stars" are concerned. Yea, Will Smith, Idris, Chris Brown & those fellas are cute -- but Levi Stubbs ... well, that foine man's voice touches me to my SOUL! I would've gladly been his "child-bride";-). You passed on one week ago today... Rest in Peace Mr. Stubbs. Thank you for the joy you sang!

This clip... Does my Heart good....

Thanks Brother Plez for sharing this! I can't seem to embed it, but Click HERE for a heart-warming video of a 106 year old Sistah voting!

...On Moving....NOPE! Think I'll stay awhile longer...

Last Wednesday I was feeling the need to shake things up and make a drastic change, maybe even move to a new location.

As I suspected, that feeling passed ... probably because:

I got some rest
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The crisp Autumn air fills my lungs each morning
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The leaves are showing off their brilliance up here in da Boogie down
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The variety of places for a vegetarian to eat here are incomparable
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The country is just a few minutes drive outside these city limits
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I've been enjoying new-found flirtations along my commute
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I enjoyed a trip "home" to DC and loved ones encouraged me to keep "hustle-in'"
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He actually called me back & says he wants to see me, take me out & cook me dinner even...
-or-

...** contented SIGH** .... All of the above ... and then some;-)

Plus - I will begin to research a new home in this area! Must haves: closer parking AND a balcony or rooftop deck....

Is Education Still Important to Parents?

Just returned from an amazingly emotional weekend. I attended my ....th High School Reunion from one of DC's top independent schools AND the retirement party of two sistahs who headed the scholarship foundation who financed a great deal of that education. Talk about surreal!

My parents were both considered "blue collar" level workers before they retired. They felt the education of their children was important enough to sacrifice for. My grade school education was probably the single, most expensive investment my parents ever made (I proudly paid my own college loans;-). Even if most of the actual funding came from scholarships and grants, my parents sacrificed their time and energy to apply, get and keep me there until graduation!

Do "working" parents still make those kinds of sacrifices for their children's education? I knew of some folk who were blessed with amazing positions that paid upwards of $75K and when I discussed the independent school option the response was: "That's too expensive!" As I watched their young children with cell phones, every electronic gadget and designer labelled clothing, I said, "Yea, you have a point. Education is so expensive these days."

Do me a favor - if you have a minute. Check out the site below then let me know if it sounds like it's over the top, or if those sound like viable tips that you appreciate as a parent:

http://www.schools2choose.com/

Thanx!!

Me: Reading on a Harlem Roof-top!

This was one high-energy evening! Thanx again for all the luv, support & encouragement on Saturday, Oct. 11th!

... On Moving, I think I want to... But Not Sure Where...

Not sure why I'm feelin'... this... need to move on... to get out.

Maybe because:

I'm coming down from my fabulous weekend "high"
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It's "that time of month" (I know...tmi;-)
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Wall Street is here
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So much Eye Candy & So Little Brain Food
-or-
I've been here for seven years (...isn't that when "the itch" starts?)
-or-
The full moon just rose high into the sky & it's so beautiful...
-or-
Several dear friends are considering relocating
-or-
So much fighting & so little to fight for
-or-
I'm a country girl at heart
-or-
I need a real, tropical, sun-drenched, vacation ... far, very far away
-or-
I need to be loved slowly, intensely, honestly and often;-)
-or-
I need a nap
-or-
I need to complete my own novel
-or-
*SIGH*

... a combination of it all...

This clip from the BD Celebration needs no editing...

Besides, I'm too excited & exhausted to edit this piece. Special thanx to R.J. Leippert for taking the role as videographer so seriously that very little editing needs to be done! Sistah Miz, U pulled this one out the hidden treasury and I am so proud to call U a partner! Hugz to ya all.

Thank U is insufficient...

...but I can't say it enough. The messages of praise, encouragement & support that have been left for me on facebook, twitter, my voice mail, and my email is truly, truly awe-inspiring. The physical & spiritual attendees & energies surrounding us at the Grand Finale Celebration for Bloggers' Delight, vol. 1 have filled me with such joy.

Although it's inadequate: Thank U!

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Thanx Eb & Dejanae for these images...

Until I download from my cameras here's what Eb the Celeb & Dejanae (above;-) posted! Thanx 2 my Li'l Sistahs of Blogland! SMOOCHEZ;-)!










A special shout out & Hug to my Brother from another mother: RJL, for taking his job as videographer (using the Flips) so seriously! Can't wait to look over all that footage!!

The NYC Book Celebration was FABULOUS!!

It was so wonderful to read under the stars, over-looking the Hudson river as the Autumn breezes caressed us! Thanks to everyone for coming out to support our first collection of short stories.

Bloggers came through and showed much luv:

Sheletha, Lance - the infamous Non-Blogger, Organized Noise, Eb the Celeb, Ali of Ali'sZay, Bougie Negro, Dejanae, BrooklynGirl, ShellyShell.

A special thanks to Troy Johnson, President of AALBC for coming out!

A extra big, ol' country hug to my gurl, Miz for treating us listeners to her beautiful voice in song! She had us all spellbound!

We couldn't have asked for a better NYC celebration:-)

Photos & videos will follow very soon!!

Musing on ... conversations....verbal dances

It's no secret that I love to talk. I'm proud that I've also become a better listener & observer of cues.

According to FreeDictionary.com:
The spoken exchange of thoughts, opinions, and feelings; talk.

According to Wikipedia:
Conversations are the ideal form of communication in some respects, since they allow people with different views of a topic to learn from each other. A speech, on the other hand, is an oral presentation by one person directed at a group.

Those engaging in conversation naturally relate the other speaker's statements to themselves, and insert themselves (or some degree of relation to themselves, ranging from the replier's opinions or points to actual stories about themselves) into their replies. For a successful conversation, the partners must achieve a workable balance of contributions. A successful conversation includes mutually interesting connections between the speakers or things that the speakers know. For this to happen, those engaging in conversation must find a topic on which they both can relate to in some sense.

As I think back on some of my most exciting conversations I've observed the following have kept me engaged & wanting to talk forEVER to the individuals:

We connected in unspoken ways. They read my signals - often better than I could have ever "read" myself. The conversation made me think & ponder on what I am doing with my own life/self. I laughed! I may have even cried. I reminisced and kept thinking forward toward a hopeful future. The individuals were passionate about life! We spoke with respect to each other, not speaking down to the other. We enjoyed the company and the meeting of the minds. We could disagree and keep the flow moving.

Great conversations are like dancing: you move joyfully together. Even if you accidentally step on each others' toes, you apologize and keep it moving!

I have a question to you who are reading this:
How do you keep your conversation engaging? Do you enjoy conversations (I must remember that there are those who prefer not to dance;-)?

As Stephanie says: Don't Be Afraid! Keep on Dancin'! Nonstop, now!


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A FEW reasons I LOVE my Commute here in da NYC:

One day I'm going to work up the nerve to take photos of all the CUTIES I see on my commute. Until then, I searched for examples of the RANGE of TALENT that others have had the nerve to video & post on YouTube. Enjoy a TASTE of my NYC commute!

I actually saw/witnessed this magician & he was INCREDIBLE during the five minutes I saw him (this video does him little justice):


I've seen & purchased CD's from this group. At least I think this is the Brass Ensemble entitled Hypnotic.


The rest I've seen similar to:




I wish I could find a clip of the dude who did the "pole dance", and the breakers who were ON the moving train doing flips, etc. without touching anyone on the train, along with the Mexican guitar players & African Drummers.... So Many Talented folk, so few YouTube Videos... I hope you enjoyed what I could find!

A Song I Never Get Tired of...

Wonder What the World Would Be Like...

... If More Folk had open minds filled with equitable thoughts...

Check This Link out: This is Your Nation...

I'd love to "hear" your thoughts about it!

Roman'ic Musings...

Wonder if I'd still be infatuated with u if we kissed....
...wanna try it & see? ;-)

I enjoyed watching a couple on the train this morning who clearly put it ON each other a few hours earlier. He was standing, she was sitting and she was still all cozy lookin' like she wanted to curl up under him again & I wasn't even mad at her. Made me reminisce a bit. Even made me look around to see if I could tell who else was gettin' it good & regular. Made me hope I am putting on a good front! LOL!

I am still smiling from the inside out. Looking forward to smiling from deep down inside out! LOL!

I know in my heart that I'll be mated sooner than I can imagine. Who knew that I'd actually find it fun & intriguing to be in this "place" that I'm in presently. I can feel him honing in on me: u know that feeling u get just before some one comes up behind u & puts their hands over your eyes? U're surprised, but then not really... and when u finally see who it is u usually GRIN all OVAH yourself! Yea, I'm in that place;-).

This feeling must be real, cuz Winter is coming. And since I've moved to NYC I used to dread the oncoming of Winter ... but not this year!

I'm determined to host more house parties, brunches, & gatherings at my home this Winter.

I'm looking forward to cooking again.

Looking forward to him coming up behind me while I'm cooking, too;-).



Here's the Cream on TOP: Joe & Sarah tear it UPPP:

A Coupla Political 'Musings...well, viewings...

I've NEVER...

I've never...
... been molested.

I've never...
... been jumped.

I've never...
... been forced to join a gang or any organization for protection.

I've never...
... been ignorant of my parents.

I've never...
... been without a roof over my head.

I've never...
... been truly hungry to the point of starving.

I've never...
... been flat broke where I didn't have a few coins in my pockets.

I've never...
... been so filled with self-hatred that I self mutilated.

I've never...
... been so lonely that I endured an abusive relationship.

I've never...
... been more THANKFUL in my LIFE for my Life!!

This isn't a poem - just a prayer of thanx to The Creator for life's blessings. This was inspired by students & loved ones who've endured so much around me. I am amazed, encouraged & motivated by their strength!

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A Few Random Musings...

Church - I haven't been much at all this Summer. I intended to go this morning, but moved too slowly for the service I wanted to attend. I miss it, but also don't feel completely up to it, yet. I don't feel ready to answer all of the questions. I'm also curious about and want to visit other churches.

Rhythm - Got to get into a good working, writing, chore completing cycle. I feel as if I'm standing outside the double dutch rope bopping trying to figure when is the best time to jump in. I've been standing outside these ropes for a "minute"... since I began this new full time position. So, I guess I've been jumping this single rope & the other ropes are being neglected, for now...

Singular Living - As I think back historically, it seems many great folk were single for most if not all of their existences on earth: Jesus, Beethoven, Susan B. Anthony, Langston Hughes, Emily Dickinson to name a few. Why is it more acceptable to choose ANY other lifestyle than single? Why do folk think something is "wrong" with you if you choose to be single? I wonder if my waves of frustration have more to do with folks' reactions than my actual existence.

Connections - I am vibe driven. If I don't sense compatibility I can't "fake it until I make it".

On Being Aquarius: As the Water Bearer - "The waters of life flow, like ideas coming from the unrestrained mind. Many people mistakenly think that Aquarius is a water sign, but it is an intellectual air sign. Because of its universality, Aquarius can seem somewhat detached from personal emotions. It's not that you Aquarius don't have feelings; it's just that yours are different from most others. You dance to the beat of a different drummer." Although you have no problem making friends from all walks of life, it can be something of a challenge for you to find romance. Perhaps that's because you're not really the hearts-and-flowers type.

My ideal match according to the experts:
Leo (July 23 – Aug. 22) – Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb. 18)
Attraction explodes when Leo, the king or queen of the kingdom, encounters irreverent Aquarius. Aquarius, who refuses to bow before royalty, fascinates Leo; Aquarius admires Leo's ability to warm up any room with sheer charisma. Over time, though, Aquarius can become weary of Leo's need for attention, and Leo grows cranky as Aquarius continually defies social conventions. When you're ready to wash your hands of each other, drag each other off to bed instead. Spending time away from crowds and indulging the purely physical side of your relationship is the surest way to find common ground and reenergize your attraction.
According to Yahoo's Shine:
Leo is a Fire Sign and Aquarius is an Air Sign. Air fuels Fire and keeps it going; Aquarius can not only keep pace with the motion and fireball of energy that is Leo, but can add special effects. They can soar to astounding heights together.

Hmmm, know any Good Leos out there BlogFam? ;-)

W-healthly Wednesdays - looks alot like Thankful Thursday 2day:-)

I'm so excited to be ME, right now! Folk may think I found Gawd (not that I ever really lost Him;-), or a new, loving Sweetness has swept me off my feet. In a way, I'm feeling like I think a "Holy Roller" feels. I. AM. LOVING. LIFE!! I feel I'm in the greatest relationship I've evah been in! I'm relating to ME & a bit more aware of my relationships with those outside of myself. I seem to smile more (I know those who see me won't think that's possible - but the smile is coming from inside & it's not just for "show"). No longer feeling like I'm putting on for "my public". I. AM. FEELING WONDERFUL!! Don't know why -- but I've learned not to look a gift horse in the mouth (not sure why that iz -- but anyway). ALL this to say - I hope u readers are experiencing the wonders of this world, too!

Sending Cyber Hugz 2 ya ALL! Ciao for now! ;-)

Thankful Thursdays - Special Computer Love Edition

I have been blessed with real Computer Love, truly.
Click here to see what I mean!

Thankful Thursdays - Special Sistah-Friend Edition

Maybe, Just Maybe ... The Creator put my fabulous social life filled with foine, adoring males On Pause -- so that I would:

• Get to know ME intimately, carefully & thoroughly.
• Learn that Sistah Friends are truly blessings and not merely folk to talk to & hang with until he comes "home".
• Understand that Loving My Grown Women Friends does not make me "suspect". Despite the growing open acceptance of homosexuality in our society now, my Womb-man hood & love for Men is not compromised. I am straight, but not narrow-minded.

Thank U Dear Sistah Friends for loving ME as I stumble my way through this Living! Below are a few of the images of Sistah Friends whose presence has been a blessing! I can only hope that I am a blessing in the lives of others.



Thanx to all my Sistah Friends for hanging in here with me during Life's RollerCoaster-Thrill Ride!



*My apologies to any sistah-friends who are not pictured here. These were the only digital images I could find on my computer at the time!