BlueBe Not Afraid Mondays

Been talking to my Daddy & a coupla friends (including bloggers) on the topic of FEAR. I've recently learned two new ways to look at FEAR:

F &%k
E verything
A nd
R un
-or-
F ace
E verything
A nd
R ejoice

I realize that both are valid depending on the circumstances. Below (and each Monday until I exhaust this topic;-) - I'll list some examples of each in my experience;-). I will try to balance them out -- it is my life goal to overcome most of my fears & the things that make me hesitate in life. I want to live a courageous life because too often fears are crippling and limiting. I know a man who has such a fear of going above the first floor of a building. Do you know how many opportunities and life experiences I would miss if I stayed on the ground level of buildings in NEW YORK CITY? I wish him well, but I am driven to overcome fears that have the potential to keep me from enjoying a full life.

I know that some fears are instincts that help keep us safe - like fear of falling or the fear of a gun pointing in your direction. And I know most other fears are reactions to tragic experiences. However, I want to train myself to believe there is ABSOLUTELY nothing to fear! Even God is not be feared, but should be revered! An example of overcoming a serious "logical" fear: If a gun is pointed in my direction I want my instincts to kick in and an alternative to be realized - either I'll talk the gun pointer into turning the gun elsewhere, I'll run in a zig-zagged pattern, or something. But, I NEVAH evah want to be paralyzed by fear. I feel strongly about this - especially now that we, U.S. residents live under a fear-mongering presidential regime who gets its rox off by promoting fear.

Sometimes I have felt the need to: F.%&k E.verything A.nd R.un:
1. When I encounter barking dogs - especially big dogs.
2. When I encountered snakes - especially in college - needed to walk a wooded path.
3. Flying on airplanes makes my heart race.

I'm Proud when I have: F.aced E.verything A.nd R.ejoiced:
1. Encounter the dog owners & learn the dogs weren't as bad as I had initially thought. Now, it's the owners I watch.
2. Volunteered at the Nat'l Zoo in DC & learned about snakes - even handled a few.
3. When I fly I pull out my journal and write exactly what I'm feeling and EVERY time it's helped to calm my nerves - even through turbulence (besides, where am I going to run TO once I'm on the plane?;-).

What fears are U working to overcome?

*click image for source & info. on Edvard Munch.

LifeLock.com: Protect Your Identity

I've often joked that if any thief tapped into my accounts they would feel the urge to put money INTO them. While I like to still think that's true - I admit that this identity theft crap has me a bit concerned and somewhat angered! I am concerned because it's too easy for folk to get into my private affair$ and angered because it's too easy to get all into my bu$ine$$! After one of my girls got her identity stolen I immediately ran out and got a shredder, I check my bills closely and I sign the back of my cards: Ask for ID. But is that enough to lock in protection? You know I can count the times that a sales person asks for my ID, right? And then, what about paying at machines where no one is there to check an ID?

So, the other day I was listening to Michael Baisden and he urged his listeners to check their credit to make sure no one is tampering with it. He also mentioned and highly recommended the service: LifeLock.com. I admit, I'm still on the fence and need to check my credit reports - but I'll be doing it sooner rather than later. Cuz what really concerns me is not the fact that thieves will use my existing cards, these bonsofsitches will open new shyt using my name. Hey, if I can't go out and have a grand ol' time -- the credit bureaus bettah NOT let anyone else have a good time in my name! So, you may wanna check out what folk are saying about LifeLock in their reviews. I know I will be!

Grown Freakin' Friday: ADULT subject matter for those over 18

Last week, Brother Rich brought up a topic in the comments about capturing the mind of your seducee (yea, I just made up that word:-). So, I ask: If you had no porn alternatives to kick start that imagination and you had to capture your seducee by first engaging their mind ... what are some of your techniques?

What are some of the most stimulating conversations or interactions you've ever had where there were no blatant references to sex, but you began to think: "DAYUMMM! S/He's got me so open, I'd jump on him/her right here, right now!" I want to know what mentally got U going and they had no idea that U were all hot & bothered. I'll give an example: One of my most evocative memories involved absolutely no references to sex, but I -- whew! if he had taken this cow-girl by her horns -- I wouldn't have been able to stop him if I tried. I was on a long distance train ride with a dear friend. I rested my head on his shoulder as he read to me. He was so enthralled by what he read, the passion, his voice, the words and steady rhythm of the train...I'm telling you it was a lethal mix! That passing fancy was never acted upon, but it continues to be one of my greatest memories and the basis for many a fantasy! LOL!

I will tell you there's nothing sexier than a man who loves what he's doing! I'm going to give that one away, Rich. Maybe it'll help prime the pump;-).

Past Grown Folk discussions:
Toe Curling Tips
Do Porn & Intimacy go together?
What is Porn & How do U feel about it?
How do U feel about Porn Enthusiasts?

*click image for source.

Jus' a Coupla Thangs on My Mind....

I've been trying to avoid this Sean Bell & Nicole Paultre-Bell tragedy cuz I don't like being angry about things I can't do anything about. I'm a problem solver & solution seeker. So, I take this lesson from this young couple's tragedy: Get Married legally before the Ceremony. Since there was no license signed by Mr. Bell, Nicole has adopted his last name, but technically is not his wife/widow.

Then I found this video featuring one of my fave rap-artists: Busa' BUS! Now, I don't know the Brother personally, but his music always brangs a giggle to my lips and a wiggle to my hips;-). I have no idea how his new album sounds, so don't run out & buy it on my account - but I do like the title: Blessed ... and I'm digging this collaboration with Linkin Park: