Monday, June 30, 2008

Brother Slish's comment deserves POST status

Brother Mr. Slish commented on a post of Eb the Celeb's last week. It was THE. MOST. HONEST. & REAL. statement I've YET to hear ANY man utter! Thank U, Brother Slish for confirming ALL my thoughts on the subject of Men & Commitment (I deleted what was meant specifically for Eb & emboldened the point I've been trying to tell folk for years;-):

Blogger Mr.Slish said...

Listen to this old gangsta because I'm probably older than most of these cats..Men don't want to date a woman who behaves like a man..Not saying that you do but to say you date like one. You can think it but don't ever say it to a guy.

Men need to feel like men in a relationship. The fact that you're so cool and you watch sports is fantastic but don't let them know that until after you've made them work a little..If you act like you don't need to be wined and dined then they won't. You're lowering the bar for yourself by making it too easy for these boys calling themselves men.

Stop playing guessing games. If you like a dude let him know right away. The worst he could say is "I'm not feeling you." That ain't gonna kill you..If you keep playing the lets just kick it and see game. Eventually your psyche will be looking to dig your self a ditch to lay down in...

Now the biggest misnomer out there is that a woman can make a man commit..Not so.. He's already decided before meeting you. So in other words women just happen to be in the right place and the right time.

Take your time -- love will eventually find you. Can't force or put a timetable on it...

June 25, 2008 11:32 AM

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Thursday, June 26, 2008

Thankful Thursdays [6 of 50]

Twenty of the 1000 Things I'm Thankful I've Experienced in My Lifetime:

101) That I'm celebrating my Daddy's birthday with him TODAY!

102) That I celebrated my Mom's birthday with her in December;-).

103) We experienced a scare a couple of years back when my Mom's thyroid became hyperactive and she lost a ton of weight without trying - almost as if she were literally melting. Since that time, I made a vow to spend every birthday with them! I'm thankful that I've been able to keep that vow.

104) I am ETERNALLY thankful that my life has been filled with EASY lessons - at least physically. Men have been gentle with me, I've never been in any major brawls or beat downs ... I do not take that for granted. I have been trained to protect myself - but like my lifeguard training -- am thankful I've never needed it.

105) When I look around at the lives of others I know that I am extremely blessed! I may not have everything (or everyONE: mate, living grandparents, close knit extended family, etc.) I desire - but I am SO thankful for all the luxuries in life I DO have & all of the loving connections with folk that I DO experience (both parents, all siblings & nephews, close with some of my extended relatives, blessed with great friends, etc.).

106) I enjoy my NOWs and dwell not on the ... "it would be better if"s....

107) When I read my poetry & prose at gatherings I consciously experience myself slowing my breath & allowing myself to relish in the moment ... and enjoy the poem or prose again. When I read last Saturday at Organized Noise's event I actually "left" the room full of people looking at me during that last poem. Instead, I entered into the room where the poem took place in my own imagination and it felt good... I always experience that as a silent reader of others' works - that was the first time I experienced that while reading aloud from my own work.

108) Peace with my place in life. Knowing I have work to do and looking forward to that, too.

109) If I could break down all of the myriad of experiences that I had during that short seven months in The USN: Boot Camp, F.I.T. division, Separations, T.H.U. - each taught me so much about me & my relationships with others! Even as a "cog" in the human grinding military machine - connecting with people is still most important!! My people personality & sense of humor saved my life (& continues to save me as a "civilian";-)!

110) Hanging out with my sisters when we were young. We used to venture all OVAH DC! Hanging out on Georgia Avenue, on Wisconsin Avenue & M sts. in Georgetown, etc. And mannn, we used to walk everywhere like it was nothing: car or not - we were always on the move! Going to Go-Go's with them was fun, too. Those were good times!

111) Summer free concerts in the parks! DC ALWAYS had something going on for free! Lots of Go-Go Bands live (up at Emory Park, out in NorfEas' somewhere, or down on Southern Avenue;-). Free Jazz at Fort Dupont Park - with blankets, coolers filled with plenty to eat & drank;-).

112) FESTS & other outdoor events: RiverFest, Black Family Reunion on The Mall, Block parties, carnivals, etc.

113) Road trips with my crew! It was so live going from college to college: AggieFest, Step shows & games at Hampton, Norfolk State, JMU, Va. State, etc.

114) LABOR DAY '88 in Va. Beach!! It was on & crack-a-lackin'!! That ENTIRE WEEKEND was ONE NON-STOP parrrrTAYYYY! Whew! Even the riotous events of that Monday did not dampen the blassttt that we had that weekend! Man, we partied with the "up & coming" stars of that day: EPMD, Kid & Play, Heavy D, etc. & I DO mean partied WITH - they were in the crowds groovin' with us!

115) Cook - OUTS!! Food on the grill is da Balm diggity! Corn, grilled veggies, sKrimps, etc. with an ice cold brew, some jokahs with plenty of stories & laughs ... it don't get much bettah than that;-)

116) Have had picnics, gone to beaches & paddle boated in a cute li'l flirty dress with a sweetie

117) Amusement parks were the THANG in H.S. & College! Used to be fun to meet guys & ride the roller coaster with them, if they were cool we'd spend the rest of the time in the park with them.

118) Taking the subway to H.S. and flirting on the way to school! Meeting up with my girls, talkin' smack, etc. Would be early to meet them & still end up late for school - so busy socializing! LOL! We were glad we didn't have to wear uniforms to our private school - so, the boys didn't know where we went until we told them.

119) Sweet experience of my first boyfriend following me home from school and worked up his nerve to speak and get my number. He was the CUTEST!

120) I'm moving forward! My identity/ego isn't tied to a vehicle. I loved the MINI as much as I loved my: VW Bug, VW Fox, VW GTI. Each of those babies were special to me & provided great service and miles of smiles. Now, I'm excited to be CoROLLin':

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The First Thankful Thursday [1-20].
Second Thankful Thursday [21-40].
Third Thankful Thursday [41-60].
Fourth Thankful Thursday [61-80].
Fifth Thankful Thursday [81-100]

Monday, June 23, 2008

Fantastic First Weekend of SUMMER '08!

Toldjall '08 would be great! Began the Summer of '08 with a FUN-TASTIC weekend!!

Started off by whizzin' down into HARLEM World on Friday at around 4pm-ish to pick up Sistah Babz from 125th street's Metro North station. First stop, a bite to eat at Strictly Roots vegetarian spot, where I had to ask old dude sitting on the curb politely if he'd mind my parking in front. He obliged by moving his feet;-). His crew began to ask questions about the MINI, while curb-sitter asked us to get him a burger. I wasn't mad at him: Strictly Roots' burgers are Da BALM!! LOL! They took owner-ship of Li'l Red by leaningall over her and inspecting her closely as Babz & I proceeded inside for a li'l something to take the edge off so we could enjoy our stroll through Harlem without the agitation brought on by belly-growls;-).

We cruised along 125th stopping in various stores that caught our attention as we headed toward our destination: Hue-Man BookStore. The weather brought everybody out and there was much to see! I felt like an owl as I tried to see everythang and e'rybody. Babz and I laughed about one water-selling entrepreneur who'd rigged up a mop handle to hold a bottle of water and a bucket to collect the money from the roof-top bus riders on double decker buses! I'm sure the Brother also had rigged up a noose in case any of those riders attempted to take his water without paying! LOL!

As we made our way back toward the car a brother in dark shades stepped in front of me. Now, I was being nosey, watching everything else, not paying him any real attention other than to step out of his way. But, he seemed to stumble and step in front of me again. I finally looked at him closely ready to snap on his azz when I realized it was a comedian that I have a secret crush on! I mentioned him on my list of comedians I'm thankful to have seen perform. Now, I've got a picture with: Capone! Can you tell I'm happy to be there? LOL!

Click on the flick to see a video of Capone in action: Warning - explicit language;-).

We put a li'l pep in our step because the skies were dark as if the heavens were going to pour down in force! The Weather Gods were with us:-). We drove down to 114th and 8th Avenue, found parking and made it into Melba's before the storm! Eb the Celeb blew in to that piece and the laughs began! That li'l chica-chic is hilarious and so full of energy!! Not to mention forgiving - it didn't even phase her that I didn't make it to Wednesday's Happy Hour. But, Eb knows I won't miss the next one now that I see she iz da TRUFF (not that i doubted it - but now I KNOW;-)!

My good friend, DKM joined us, we finished our appetizers and drinks then strolled a few blocks north to Nectar, Harlem's first wine bar (that I know of;-). Eb told us that wine wasn't her thing (... yet - she's still youthful & loving the head-kick of likker;-). That didn't stop her from taking notes on the selections that Beth brought to us. Big UPS to Nectar's own - Beth and Nigel: Beth was our guide (or sommelier;-) for the evening and Nigel brought us snacks as the night drew on. Nectar's is a cozy li'l spot that seems to draw ladies, couples on dates and gentlemen with a softer side. Eb cut out to join her party people ... maybe a bit too early as a young cutie did come in with a birthday celebration. He sat beside us and engaged in more conversation with us than he did his own party. I certainly enjoyed his testosterone inflected conversation;-). Howevah, I'm sure there were puh-lenty of cuties wherever Eb and her crew ended up;-).



On our way north to The Boogie Down, Babz asked if I were a morning person ... after getting home at 2am: Hayl Nawl! I was just glad she could entertain herself when I heard her "non-morning" self get up at 8 in THE MORNING! LOL!

I finally got up at 9:30ish since I didn't wanna sleep her time away;-). We got it together, had brunch at a local diner then headed to The City (as Manhattan is called in these pahts;-). We ended up hanging out in SoHo - popping into various shops, such as: Crate & Barrel, Kenneth Cole, Prada (I tried on a pair of masterpieces that I'll go back for when I'm able to spend $700 on ONE pair of shoes;-), and Room & Board. Eric of Room & Board told us about a nearby wine bar, when we asked where to go for refreshments;-). Of course, we had to venture over and try Vintage New York! Their fish sandwich was quite tasty on whole grain bread. The chips were a bit too oily, but I polished them off to counter the effects of the wine;-). I do have a suspicion that they're the same owners as the Harlem Vintage, so I'll have to investigate a bit more;-).

We floated back to the car, headed north on Hudson River parkway and arrived at Organized Noise's Fund Raiser - Liquid Lyrics: Words Over Manhattan at 135th & Riverside Drive by 8pm. I was SOOO excited that my girl E.J. was able to meet us there! She hung out with us Wicked Women: Babz & I on the lovely rooftop as we waited for the readings to begin. FYI: I discovered the Trattatoria where Eb the Celeb's Wednesday Happy Hours are held! It's located just below the overlook of O.N.'s selected location! What a coinky-dink!


Oh! Lance did call as we were heading north. He spoke to Babz & we're planning a day trip to CT at some point;-). Stay tuned for Brown Bloggers Take over CT. LOL!

Thanx again to Organized Noise for giving me the opportunity to showcase my works. Big Thanx to Sistah Camille who purchased a copy of my poetry booklet! It was fun to meet the other writers, too. In the group flick below from left to right: Organized Noise, Isaiah, me;-), Joseph & Tameka.


The only other blogger who made herself known to me was the mysterious-no-photos-please Blah, Blah, Blah. Was NICE meetin' ya & getting a hug, Sis! Hmmm, Organized Noise - u gotta do a bettah job of introducing bloggers - I see at your spot that SEVERAL others were in the house that I have yet to meet (& their profiles don't have photos - so, I couldn't pounce;-)! Learned that the one Brother who came out to the deck to talk to us is also a blogger: Will.

Of course, we had to have a night-cap;-). Babz and I met my girl, DKM and her man, RL at our local watering hole in da Bronx: F&J Pine (Wow! I just discovered they've got a working website, now - check it out;-)! ALL of our favorite bartenders & wait staff were in da House, so Babz got the full flavor of why we love that place! She even got her mack on with a PapiChulo!

As "they" say, all great things must come to an end. When Mama Babz gently called my name before 9am the next morning I knew she was ready to get home to her babies. I redeemed myself by going to church after dropping Sistah Babz off at the station. Glad I could be part of your first Blog-Meet weekend, Sistah Babz!

So, there U have it - my Fun-tastic Blogger Meet Weekend ... may this summer be FILLED with them;-)!

Friday, June 20, 2008

Git 2 know U & Me: Hanging OUT in Harlem;-)

Reminder:
I'll be looking to meet more Bloggers/Lurkers at the following events/parties this week:

Thanx 4 callin' in Rich: Sunday, June 15th to my evening:
BTRadio Show on Confidence & Gettin' Comfy with Self!

1) Eb The Celeb's Co-Hosting monthly!
[My Bad for flaking out on your first one, Sis. I got NO excuse in July.]

Wednesday, June 18, you are invited to Kick Off Summer in Harlem.
@ Covo Tratoria

701 West 135th Street and 12th Ave

(212) 234-9573
Featuring happy hour food and drink specials
from 7pm-12am.

2) Several Writers & Artists who also Blog will be meeting me & LoveBabz at Harlem's newest, much raved about wine bar: Nectar at about 8:30pm on Friday the 20th;-). Since LoveBabz'll be with me I'll probably be more prompt than usual. LOL! If u don't wanna chance missing us - leave your email addy in the comments & i'll send u my cell number (Don't wanna miss u again, Yellow Rebel;-).

3) Organized Noise is Doing a Great Deed!

Liquid Lyrics: Words Over Manhattan -- An intimate night of poetry and spoken word. Saturday, June 21, 2008 7-10pm. Rio Gallery II 583 Riverside Drive (135th Street) - 7th Floor, Harlem, New York 10031. Admission - $10

Where ELSE can U listen to/share your poetry, mingle and support a scholarship fund raiser? His alumni association is raising money to offset the cost of tuition for students (from New York) who are currently at Morgan State University. How cool is THAT? A party with a purpose;-). If u wanna be showcased - head over to Organized's spot & let him know. I'm sharing & hope to hear U, too;-).

Le's Get this Summer Started RIGHT!! ;-)

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